I see these posts doing the rounds every now and again and the time never felt right before but today I've finally taken the plunge and written a letter to my 16 year old self.
*takes immediate break to make a cup of tea*
I know life may seem quite dark right now, it may seem there is no way through to light again but there is. Of that I assure you. Life can truly be a wonderful gift if you let it be. First and Foremost, snap out of the love affair you're having with your own misery and look at all the good surrounding you. Take a moment to just sit and think of the positives.
Stop letting boys and do not let men dictate to you. Demand respect and behave accordingly. And yes, sometimes, staying on the sidelines of social occasions will earn you the title of Ice Queen so talk to someone, anyone at those gigs. Relax, be yourself. You're not that bad. In fact, scrap that. You're a good person. Don't allow yourself to be treated as anything less.
Keep writing! Even if it *is* just for fun. Don't let anyone tell you it won't amount to anything. Do it for the love of it. Find joy in any little thing you do and stop taking everything so seriously. Be proud of your scribbles, looking back in years to come you'll wish you had kept more of them.
Stop saying you don't believe in Love. You're 16. Of course you don't really understand it yet. People will constantly tell you that you don't understand it and you'll see it as a challenge - it's not. It's kind hearted advice that you should really listen to. Please stop rubbishing weddings because I've news for you. The wedding you were never going to have?
Yes, you definitely will let one person in long enough to learn what love is.
Stop telling everyone who'll listen that you hate kids and you'll never EVER have any because guess what?
Life doesn't always pan out the way you believe it will my dear 16 year old self. There will be even lower lows than the one you're wading through now, there will be worse storms ahead but take each day as it comes and you'll get through. Treat each day as a gift and never ever do something silly to endanger that, please.
Walk into a police station if any man OR woman lifts their hand to you. The very first time. Just walk the hell away. And don't look back.
Oh! Get your thyroid checked! Do not blow any wages on alcohol - it's really not worth it. SAVE.
By the way.... Your Holy Gothness, it *is* a phase (in your case anyway) so stop giving your parents so much crap for pulling you up on it. In fact, stop giving them so much grief full stop. They're grown adults with their own issues to work through so back off!
Just to round things off 16 year old self, you will be looking down the barrel of turning 28 one day. You actually make it there relatively unscathed. So I guess, no matter what, you get there.
Most importantly, stop snooping. You guess well half the time anyway so there's no need for snooping. Cut it out. Nothing good will come of it.
I probably heard the majority of that from one source or another when I was 16 but we really just don't listen do we?
I found this extremely therapeutic and though I haven't gone into too much detail, it is the world wide web after all, I still feel more at peace now than I did a half hour ago.
What would you say to your 16 year old self?